Positive Habits For Stay At Home Moms

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.o I Building positive habits as a stay at home mom will ultimately determine your success or failure in the job. And by success or failure, I’m talking about the way you feel about yourself as a stay at home mom, and not necessarily whether or not you remain in the role. Since you are your own boss as a stay at home mom, if you aren’t feeling good about your skills, you may decide that it’s too difficult, or boring, or crazy, and choose to work outside of the home, when all you really needed were positive habits.

Mindset Habits

 

A lot of success for stay at home moms happens because the mom just has the right mindset. Having the wrong mindset will set you back like nothing else…

Thinking, I’m not good at this, I’m not patient enough, I’m not naturally organized, I’m messy, I’m a terrible cook, I’m not a good mom, etc. is not only damaging, but prevents you from actually improving for the better.

Instead, a change in mindset as small as adding the word ‘yet’ to the end of any of these phrases turns them into something more inspiring.

For example, I’m not patient enough…yet. And then add on a positive statement like…I am working towards my goal of becoming a patient mother.

Patience

 

Speaking of becoming a patient mother…

I want to dispel a myth right now. No one is a naturally patient mother. No one.

Patience is a skill that is developed with a lot of hard work and determination. The good news is that anyone can develop patience, seriously anyone.

 

There are numerous ways to become a more patient person. These two ways have helped me more than anything else.

1. I pretend like my pastor’s wife is standing right beside me throughout my day watching all of the interactions between me and my children and husband.

Most people are able to be more calm, cool and collected in the presence of people they look up to. Imagine that you are always being observed by one of these people, it will help you to adjust your reactions.

2. I think about how I want my children to remember me when I’m gone one day. Do I want to be remembered as a short-tempered, frazzled, snappy hurricane? No, I want to be remembered as warm, patient, kind, and funny.

In order to be remembered that way…I have to BE that way.

Routine

 

Every successful and accomplished stay at home mom that I know has a routine. A routine doesn’t have to be a rigid schedule, it’s more of an order of operations.

Getting daily tasks done in a methodical way will ensure that nothing gets missed, whereas if you approach your tasks with scattershot abandon, things will surely be missed. 

 

In my own day there are certain times that I try to stick to, waking up, breakfast, lunch, beginning dinner prep, and bedtime. This is my framework.

After looking at my framework, I add in the tasks and the order that I need to complete them.

If I am trying to get a load of laundry done, get the kids doing their morning chores, and finish three homeschool subjects between breakfast and lunch, but only end up getting two subjects finished, and don’t get the laundry turned over, that’s okay.

The extra work can roll into the next time section of my day. As long as I don’t overestimate how much time I have and underestimate how much energy I have to complete the tasks, I am able to get everything done.

But the key is to develop a routine and rhythm of the day.

Outdoor Time

 

Stepping outside and getting some fresh air throughout the day is one of my favorite positive habits for stay at home moms.

Fresh air and sunshine, even in small amounts can do wonders for a stressed out mother. Whenever I am feeling the pinch, it’s usually because I haven’t stepped outside all day.

You may be a naturally outdoorsy lady, and you don’t have to be intentional about getting outside, and if that is the case, it’s a huge blessing! For those of you though, like me, who prefer the great indoors…build outdoor time into your day!

Being AT Home

 

If you feel like you are never getting all of your daily and weekly tasks done in your home it may be because you are just not AT HOME enough. This may seem obvious, but the title is stay at home mom, not minivan mom or on-the-go mom.

If you are not physically in your home enough during the day, there’s no way you will be able to complete all of your tasks. You have two choices.

1. Pare down your schedule to give yourself a few more hours in the home. Dedicate that time to the keeping of the home.

2. Pare down your expectations of what you will be able to accomplish in your home.

Being a stay at home job is often a thankless job. It’s difficult and stressful, but the rewards are huge. Working on building positive habits will go a long way towards making the job more enjoyable.

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